There is one thing you can begin today which will start your relationship flourishing immediately, and that is to come from a space of contributing , from a space of giving . Giving what ? Giving what is needed. Giving time, giving attention , giving help, giving money whatever. Just living in awareness of wanting to give, and keeping patient, will uplift the relationship. Then you can row any boat. ( Of Course there still can be times when the boat has a hole in it, so sometimes you do change the boat, but that is for an entirely different reason ).
You have so much love that you can offer ,and your mind is so much more powerful. You can create the situation that you would like to have around you. Then the ultimate relationship is possible.